Behave Like a Lady!

Dear Reader,

I stumbled across of very interesting article on Facebook; that I am sure many of you have read. The article is about male dominance in speech, and how women are perceived in regards to speech. Here’s in the link to the article: http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5544203

This one hit close to home. Primarily yes, because I’m a woman. It’s not only my sex that makes it such an important subject to me, but it’s my own personal experience with my family.

I’m the only daughter and granddaughter in my family. Boy am I treated differently!

Just last week these were the types of things I was told by family members.

“Does your boyfriend allow you to drink? Well, it must be nice to find someone who finds it acceptable for a woman to drink that much.”

There was also an instance at the dinner table. I was trying to say something, and a few of the men interrupted me. I noticeably became upset, and tried to make it known that I was speaking first. However I was told, “Ssh! Behave and let the guys speak.”

Other noticeable sexism at home is with between me and my brother. He would say things to me such as:

“Why do you even bother speaking?”

Of interrupt me and say, ” No one cares about what you’re talking about.”

Meanwhile his behavior was considered as humor, and I was overreacting for speaking up for myself.

I’ve always been a polite person, but I’ve also been very blunt, sarcastic, and very dominating in conversation. Sometimes my “confidence” as been taken the wrong way, but it is something that I’m proud of.

I am constantly reminded to behave like a lady. Though it upsets me when ever I’m “reminded”, but this article really made me think.

Next time I will simply respond, ” I am behaving like a lady. A lady who is confident, and is her own women. Who refuses to fit into society’s standards of what a woman should be.”

Ladies, please don’t allow yourself to fall into society’s norms of what a lady is suppose to be. Just be you! And if being you offends some people; then they’re not worth your time. Speak up and be heard!

Light and love,
❤ Blossoming Goddess

Polite Society is Dying, but There’s a Cure!

Dear Reader,

I work, like most of us do, in the customer service field. What I do exactly will not be posted on this blog. As stressful environment it can be at times,but I actually enjoy it. I enjoy making strangers laugh, and sparking up that random conversation with a patron. With working in customer service you can come to expect that you will face your occasional asshole or two.

Let’s face it. The world is filled with assholes, but that doesn’t mean you and I have to be one them. What I am noticing is a growing epidemic of people forgetting their manners, and the overall importance of showing simple acts of kindness to their fellow man.

Take a moment please. Just take a step back, and think how you might of interacted with the cashier at your local burger joint, or the elderly passenger who couldn’t find a seat on the bus that you took to work this morning. Were you kind? Were you thoughtful?

When you really take a moment to think about it you probably weren’t. You were probably too busy checking your Facebook on your smart phone, or rushing to get to work to even notice those around you. We’ve all done it. So let’s be honest with ourselves, and think how this behavior is wrong.

If you’re at your local coffee shop ordering you no foam latte, do you think it would be considerate to get off of your phone for just a moment to give the person who is making your drink a nice greeting?

You’re riding the bus to work, and you’re lucky enough to have a seat, but there aren’t any left for any new passengers. However, an elderly gentleman hops on and has to stand. Did you at least think about giving him your seat? Your young, and healthy enough to stand throughout your ride.

We have become so busy with our own lives, and our cell phones that we forgot how to treat one another. I’m not saying greet everyone you see on the street, but the simple kind gesture of holding the door for someone goes a long way. Perhaps helping someone who is struggling with their groceries by offering them your help. Kindness is contagious, and you should spread it. Not only will you make the other person feel good, but you will feel amazing as well.

Parents! I know you can honestly say that you strive to teach your children the importance of manners, and overall good behavior. Do you do so by simply telling them to behave a certain way, or by modeling that good behavior?

“Tessa tell mommy thank you for buying you that ice cream.”

I’m sure you have said something similar to this to your child. I know the attempt to teach them good manners is there, but telling them to say please, and thank you becomes almost meaningless. They’re just words. Moms and dads out there! Let me ask you if you said “thank you” to the woman behind the counter at Wendy’s, or did you just say “Gimme the burger with fries?” Be honest with yourself.

No one’s perfect, and we’ve all made mistakes. I’m just suggesting that we take a look at what our priorities are. What’s more important…Checking your Facebook while you sit on the bus, or letting that elderly man have your seat?

Today’s Lesson: Ask yourself have you been thoughtful? Have you been kind? Time to put that iPhone down, and make kindness and manners a top priority.

If you enjoyed this post then please check out some actual studies done about kindness. There have been a few studies that have been done that prove that kindness is good for your health and over all well being! How cool is that?!?!